This is an article written by my daughter Kim, which was published in the Botany and Ormiston Times - April 9 2015
Don't Judge a Book by its Cover - by Kim Neal
How many people look at someone and because of their appearance or actions, make a judgement? Usually not a good one. I know I’m guilty of it. It’s human nature...but that immediate judgement can be very limiting.
We haven’t made an effort to understand that person. Sometimes taking the time to put yourself in their shoes will help you to realise why that person is acting in a certain way. They may be angry about their circumstances and just need some well-timed advice.
I would not be in the loving relationship I am now if I had carried on my judgemental attitude. I met a guy on New Year’s Eve 2013 and we exchanged numbers. I didn’t think much of it because he certainly wasn’t my type. I had lunch with him and proceeded to tell him this. To my shame, I said to his face that he was overweight, he smoked, and he had a rubbish job and he wasn’t what I was looking for. He also had an awful hairstyle and tattoos. His response to me: “But I really like you.”
Over the next few months I actually got to know him really well and discovered just what a special person he is. We have now been together for over a year and I couldn’t be happier. He is utterly devoted to me and tells me every day how precious I am to him (and vice versa of course). Oh, and he’s lost a stone and will have a better job soon. All he needed was someone special in his life to give him a bit of inspiration.
"Be curious, not judgemental." - Walt Whitman
- Kim Neal is a Kiwi, living in London, and is the daughter of one of our readers.